Carol Creel Speaks on “What it’s Like to Surrender”
Surrendering to what Is– Not as easy as it sounds! Try surrendering to a situation when YOU’RE angry! One of the things I have to remind myself of is—”I am not angry for the reason I think I am.” Have you ever noticed this? Beneath anger is a deeper emotion that I am feeling like hurt or that what happened or was said to me evoked in me a feeling of unlovable, guilt or shame. One cannot be in peace when one is in anger, because two contrasting emotions can not live in you at the same time.
What is meant by surrendering? To me it means letting go of thoughts/feelings that do not serve me or another, refraining from reacting to a person, place or thing, in other words, yielding to the situation, listening in non-judgment. In one of our Law Of Attraction (LOA) groups, someone said they do not like the word ’surrendering’ because for them it felt like ‘weakness.’ They preferred the words, ‘letting go’ as in ‘Let go and Let God’. Surrender to a higher power, don’t react, become the observer. Most people live in a very reactionary state of mind. I am beginning to catch myself when I react. Just as soon as I do, I stop, get quiet, take three breaths and become the observer. Try it, when someone is angry at you and yelling, calling you names etc., do not hook into that energy, stay calm, take those breaths and become the witness of the situation; then watch what happens. The peace within you shifts the energy for the other person as well. This does not mean that you deny the person their upset or emotions. By all means, acknowledge their emotions, but do not engage with them in it. You can say, “I see you are upset or I am sorry that happened to you ,” or, “I can see how this upsets you.” We all want to be validated in our upsets and pain
And then there is, learning to surrender to the Allness that IS…being authentic and remembering who I truly am. Actually it is a journey to self love…we are all on this path together.
Once, when I caught myself getting very angry because I was not getting the response I wanted from someone close to me, all of a sudden, I became aware that I was not in control; then, reminded myself that no one is doing anything TO me! So, I took what I call, “three Tolle breaths,” and relaxed myself into the acceptance of what was showing up for me. I was willing to let go of my concepts and perceptions of what I might have mistakenly misinterpreted and of my own need to be ‘right.’ Our pain, most of the time, comes from our expectations. Just think, if you have no pre-conceived expectations, you are free to be open to infinite possibilities! Eckhart Tolle says in his book, A New Earth, “…acceptance means, For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly.” Even if it is doing nothing, in just observing the situation, I relaxed, which shifted the energy; then, the situation changed for the better. We must remember, this too shall pass, this is just one moment in time, and nothing ever stays the same. The one thing we can count on is change.
Will you be willing to share a story of either how you reframed a situation or accepted it, and what that experience was like for you? Write to me, carolcreel@lifeworks-marketing.com.
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